Anything For A Laugh

In Mind by Caleb

Know what you need, and find it in healthy ways.

My son Henry will do anything for a laugh.

Henry: “Edie, kick me in the face.”

Edie: “Ok.”

Kick!

Everyone laughs. And, for Henry, it’s worth it.

There’s something you’re willing to say and do dumb things for. Do you know what it is? Do you know what you’re so desperate to have that you’re acting out and being crazy? For me, I can obsess about progress. I need to feel like I’m making progress, and when I feel like I’m not—or it’s not fast enough—I’m tempted to do dumb things. I can be critical of myself and others. I’m tempted to take shortcuts. And I can act out in ways to self-sooth because I’m feeling bad about my slacker self.

But the reality is that progress happens when I’m embrace the process. Leaning into the process and enjoying the journey is my path toward healthy progress and fulfillment.

What about you?

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In Person

In Body, Heart by Caleb

Whenever possible, it’s better in person.

Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together… (Hebrews 10:24-25)

Hand-written is better than typed. Calling is better than writing. In person is better than the phone.

When we’re together, our words actually, physically reach the other person with their vibrations. We “feel” each other, in the most literal sense.
Christmas, too, reminds us that God came, in person. In living color, God showed us how to be human and live lives of love and connection. Nature tells a story. Written Word is helpful and life-giving. But in person—that was best…and is still best for us.

Let’s get together.

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Giving Tuesday

In Heart, Mind by Caleb

 It’s Giving Tuesday, and millions of people will make small and large donations to organizations and individuals in a spirit of generosity, kindness, and love.

 I’m not writing this to convince you to give. In fact, maybe you SHOULD NOT give.

 You probably shouldn’t give…

  • if you feel manipulated 
  • if you feel pressured 
  • if you don’t care and don’t care to care

If you don’t care but you want to care—give. (The heart follows.)

If you care and you want to contribute—give. (The heart grows.)

If you feel a strange, uncomfortable desire to be generous and sense the smile of God—give. (God especially seems to enjoy generosity with a smile.)

Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. (2 Corinthians 9:7)

Spirit Farm exists to help people connect with God, others, and themselves — growing spiritually in the rhythms of real life. If you resonate with that and would like to support our vision , you can give to Spirit Farm HERE…but only if it makes you smile 🙂

 *Spirit Farm (a d.b.a of “Hope for Life”) is a non-profit and contributions are tax-deductible. Our giving page is safe and oh so simple.

Thank you for your generosity!

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Cold Means Slower

In Mind, Soul by Caleb

There’s a season for everything under heaven. God designed this human experience with seasons that point us in directions, orient our priorities, and cause us to look at life a bit differently. 

I was just in the mountains and there was a lot of snow. So much so that we needed chains for our tires. Putting on chains isn’t the easiest thing—especially for me—particularly when it’s freezing and you’re on the side of a mountain road. But, they help keep us safe.

They also force you to drive slow. Snow means slow. And there’s beauty to it. You might not move as fast or accomplish as much, but when it’s cold outside, something else is happening.

Everything in nature slows down as it chills and freezes. Shouldn’t we? Perhaps God is slowing us down for a new year reset. Helping us to reevaluate what’s been and gear up for what’s coming.

Embrace the chill. Embrace the season. Don’t be afraid to take it a little slower.

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Waiting by the Curb

In Heart, Mind by Caleb

What are you so excited about that you’ll wait all day by the curb?

My boys sat in sub-50 degree weather for a good 90 minutes “waiting for Amazon”. Titi had bought a present and told them it’d arrive via Amazon delivery. So they waited. Snacks, chairs, coats, and drinks. They waited—content and excited.

What are you hopeful for? What are you waiting on? What’s coming and you’re willing it so with your committed enthusiasm?

I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope. I wait for the Lord more than watchmen wait for the morning… (Psalm 130:5-6)

A verse like this can seem distant and unrelated to my 21st century life. Until… until I realize that I’m waiting, too. There are things I think are coming in my future. There are hopes and goals that I’m crystal clear on. And I think those things are “waiting on the Lord”, because He made me and it’s believed that He puts desires in our hearts. Sure, sometimes, we probably get it wrong and desire things just because other people have them. But—sometimes—we’re listening to the whisper in our souls, and waiting on God like “watchmen wait for the morning”.

Dream. Hope. Hustle. Wait. Repeat.

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Thanksgiving Way

In Heart, Mind by Caleb

I like to post about Thanksgiving AFTER Thanksgiving. When I feel fat, tired, and a little sick from the kid at dinner who wiped his snotty nose on me. When the house is less full and the fridge is packed with leftovers. When there’s more to clean up than to prepare for. When everyone is posting about their experiences and I’m tempted to compare. When ads are bombarding me with ”Black Friday” excuses to believe I’m lacking something.

That’s when I want to be thankful.

Thankful, not because things are or were perfect,  but because we were together. Thankful because we are alive. Thankful because good is springing up everywhere I look—when I look for it.

Thankful because thanksgiving is a WAY, not a day. And it’s a better way.

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Peace with Food

In Body, Mind by Caleb

You can enjoy food and not be enslaved by it.

The Lord God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. (Genesis 2:9)

Food was always designed to look good, taste good, and be good for the body. The problem with food is when we… * eat what’s not healthy * eat too little * eat too much

Why? Why do we binge or make other unhelpful food choices? For the same reason we struggle with any addiction; we choose control–using our vice of choice–so we don’t have to feel the feelings we don’t want to feel.

But…

It’s not until we feel that we can heal.

If you have a problem with food, food is not the real problem. The food issues are telling you that it’s time to courageously feel some feelings you’ve been stuffing. Therapy, meditative prayer, good friends, family members, others who have walked this road…all can be helpful.

Food isn’t the enemy. You can have peace with food. And food might just be the vehicle God wants to use to give you ultimate peace within.

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Peace with Family

In Heart, Mind by Caleb

You can honor and not agree. You can respect and not see eye-to-eye.

“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:2-3)

Social science has proven this ancient text. Do you know the primary characteristic of the people in the world who live the longest and enjoy the best health? Food and exercise are part of the equation, but the most prominent factor is…community and proximity to meaningful relationships.

God gave us families knowing they would let us down and be imperfect. Family is a shadow representation of the love God has for us, and the harmony God wants with us. A less than perfect shadow is better than no shadow. And, God has a way of filling in the gaps.

But, for us, this holiday season, we honor.

We respect, even when it’s hard. We draw boundaries, but we don’t build up barriers. We change our expectations of people, but we don’t chain people to their pasts.

Peace with family might not be easy, but it’s possible, and it’s a better path for your long, enjoyable life here on earth. 

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Peace with Friends

In Heart, Mind by Caleb

Harmony doesn’t mean we agree on everything. Harmony means we love and respect each other even though we don’t agree.

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. (Romans 12:18)

What relationships need more “peace”? What keeps getting in the way?

I know, it’s probably mostly their fault. But, what if fault was less important, and love could win the day?

What if being right took a backseat to being together?

Live at peace. Even with her. Even with him. It’s better this way

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Stay There

In Heart, Mind by Caleb

Be careful not to crave the upgrade.

“Whatever house you enter, stay there util you leave that town.” — Jesus (Luke 9:4)

We love our upgrades. Apple knows that as well as anyone.

But when it comes to upgrading from people and their generosity, it can backfire.

I’ve seen people (and pastors) be friends with some and not others because of their wealth or status. Caring for some—and not others—when they have large homes or more money. So dangerous. It looks ugly from the outside, but its even worse for our human hearts.

Jesus sent his followers out on a good-doing mission and said, “Whoever welcomes you first, stay with them. Don’t upgrade when people see your miracles and offer you nicer accommodations.”

Why? Well, then it becomes about you and your comfort instead of the mission and serving people.

Don’t forget the people who took care of you in the beginning. Serve everyone and don’t just cater to the bougie. Stay on mission and know that inner fulfillment is better than outer fancy.

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