Be yourself

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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson Sometimes when I’m at an event or in a group of people I have to fight off insecure thoughts: “I wish that I…” * was funnier * was wittier * had more to say about this topic …

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Inspiration everyday

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We need inspiration. Everyday. Today is the day matters. All of life is happening now, in this moment. Now is the convergence of the journey of your past and the potential of your future. Now is the only time that you can be you and connect with your Creator. Now, and the next “now” moments, are when life unfolds. So …

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Bad guys

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My five-year-old is always playing with Legos and superheroes. He regularly suggests that some are “good guys” and others are “bad guys.” I’m sure that’s the same way I played and probably the way all kids play. When we’re young, we see the world through simple lenses. Good / bad Them / us But as we grow, so must our …

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When you can’t sleep

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We’ve all been there. Circumstance of life are creeping into our quiet moments and disrupting peace and thus, our sleep. There are thousands of recommendations about how to deal with anxiety, restlessness, and sleep struggles. Here’s another strategy. One I’ve lived and developed for myself out of necessity during the recent and perhaps most challenging season of my life. Try …

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First thoughts

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Today, my 11-month old was up before 5:30a. My wife brought her into the bed to nurse, with the hope she might fall back asleep. She didn’t. We didn’t. When the reality of the early morning set in, my wife asked, “Can you take the first shift?” Long pause. “Sure,” I muttered. My first thought was, “I wish she would …

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Mr. Rogers, the genius

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“When we talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.” – Fred Rogers I’m notoriously bad and sharing my feelings. I’m happy to share my thoughts, ideas, and insights… but feelings? Why is it difficult? Because I’m a man? Because I don’t have the words or energy? Because I’m a “spiritual leader”? Because I have …

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I’ll go first

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You’ll be miserable if you’re waiting on someone else before you do the right thing. Waiting on someone to say sorry, or thank you, or invite you, or initiate… Stop waiting for them to act and you act. It’s your life, and all you can control are your attitudes and actions. Take the power back and be the person you …

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The outpouring

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I’ve been overwhelmed by the outpouring of love of support from so many of you. Your kind words of affirmation toward me have made a tough time more hopeful. And my family and I are grateful. Here’s the thing about encouragement: We ALL need it! Like, really need it. We’re all living with an encouragement deficit. We’re walking around in this …

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Humility-ation

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Everyone likes the idea of humility. Sometimes for ourselves—always for others. What they don’t tell you is that humility and humiliation are from the same root, and share one path. “Lean into the knife,” a friend once told me. “Let the Great Surgeon do His work. There’s true healing on the other side.” Embrace the pain. Crawl through the humiliation. …

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New Beginnings

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New Beginnings Life is changing for me and family. I want to give you a little backstory and a tiny glimpse of the future still forming. I wasn’t sure where else to post this message, so here it is. By the way… This is my new blog. Yes, I know, it’s 2018 and I’m starting a blog. I’ve always been …

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