Smile and ask

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Hilary and I were flying recently. We had a few extra minutes before the flight boarded, so I did what I usually do. I went up the desk and asked the young man if there were two better seats available. He told me that there were, but they came with an upgrade cost. He quoted a price that wasn’t worth …

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To be understood

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Mr. Rogers has had a post-humorous resurgence of late, and rightly so. The guy was amazing. Last week, I watched the “Won’t You Be My Neighbor” documentary on Netflix. (Also, Tom Hanks will play Rogers in a new movie set to release in October 2019.) Fred Rogers inspired me with his radical and creative commitment to the well-being of children. Day after …

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Hilary hijack: Welcoming 2019!

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It’s a new year; it’s a new start. This brings me great joy because 2018 was a rough one. ROUGH! It was full of disappointment and a handful of really painful experiences–traumatic, unfair, even unbelievable. Yet, God allowed it. He could have stepped in at any point to rescue, yet He allowed me to experience this incredibly painful year. I don’t …

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But God intended it for good

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“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” -Genesis 50:20 A friend just texted me that she had prayed this verse over me six months ago when circumstances went to crap. The verse comes from the story of Joseph. Joseph was sold into slavery by his …

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Shared reality

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Hilary and I have had our share of issues, arguments, and struggles in our marriage. Stress heightens emotions and the struggles resurface. After a recent “conflict,” I was reflecting on why I became so frustrated and argumentative—okay, childish.  I realized that I keep trying to convince Hilary to come further my way. It hasn’t worked in ten years. And they say …

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Spine

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In the past, I’ve gone to chiropractors when I’ve been in pain. Wear and tear from years of sports makes me vulnerable to periodic back pain, and chiropractors are part of the solution. But as I age—that sounds geriatric—I have an increasing awareness of, and concern for, the health of my spine. It’s the connector and protector and its importance …

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2019 Blessing

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Happy New Year!May you……Run with perseverance, yet crawl when you need to. …Breathe many breathes, yet enjoy the breathe of Life. …Cling to your convictions, yet throw grace like confetti. …Focus on the task at hand, yet get away for good times. …Climb the mountain in front, yet regularly take in the view.…Love and give generously, yet put on your oxygen mask first. …Chase the …

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Near Death

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After saying goodbye to Hilary’s precious mom following a short battle with pancreatic cancer, I had a new perspective. I’d never been so close to death. I had never walked that journey—doctor appointments, treatments, visits, planning…being together and cherishing each day. It had an impact on me (beyond the painful loss of an incredible mother-in-law).  Turns out, proximity to death can …

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Face-to-face and side-to-side

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Some conversations are best had face to face. Others, side by side.  Face to face, knee to knee is more intimate, more intense, more focused and direct. Side by side means that you’re doing something else, and conversation can flow naturally over the course of the thing you’re doing.  I had to have a difficult employment conversation with a guy on a …

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Get blank

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Let me tell you one of the most important things I’m focusing on in 2019:  Starting the day BLANK.  What I mean is that I am committed to starting each day… still quiet reflective prayerful reducing distractions listening for instructions I’m discovering that this is true: Clear away the crap and the path presents itself.  “After the wind there was an …

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